Porn stars – I just don’t get it

5 Oct

I'd pick Sandra Bullock any damn day.

I saw my first proper porno the other day.

Knowing my staunch anti-porn stance, my dear boyfriend thought it amusing to bring along a lovely little film called Barely Legal 3. (Now before you think this is even dodgier than it sounds, take heart – the girl was definitely “legal”. (And obviously bare haha). What I’m trying to say is that the porn industry clearly cannot be bothered with the make-up wizards who make Hollywood 24 year olds look like 18 year olds. And thank goodness. Yuck.)

Anyway – curiousity overcame reluctance and in went the dvd. Cue 20 minutes of plotless bonking in every conceivable position and using every orifice including both nostrils. Just kidding. The girl did pee on the floor, though, and that’s just about as weird

My assumptions about these films had been confirmed – a multi-billion dollar industry of utter shit.

Now, it’s a known fact that men like the stuff. More controversial is the perspective of women. Cosmo would have us believe that some of us enjoy these movies more than a good Sandra Bullock romcom.

But I just don’t buy it.

As a woman, my only thoughts were ones of utter disgust and pity. Who is this woman? Why is she doing this? What must have happened to her to turn to this?

Porn stars, you see, were nothing but victims in my mind.

The reason was simple – I am yet to meet a woman who does not experience sex as something emotional. Those of us who are in committed relationships see it as a way to be closer to our men. Those of us who are single may be having sex anyway – but I can assure you that it is never without feeling.

Thus, to me, it seemed that the girls performing in such spectacles as Barely Legal and – I kid you not – It’s not fantastic, it’s cumtastic! must necessarily be victims. How, I wondered, could it be possible for a woman to sever from herself the very essence of sex?

My righteous bubble of indignation at the porn industry reserved a bit of a blow at SEXPO this weekend, though… Far from what I was expecting, the woman didn’t look like victims at all.

A friend put it so well: “Some women in the industry are victims…but some just like to have sex.”

Obviously, the victims must exist. But seems to me that they are mostly on our streets, and not our screens.

The SEXPO porn queens certainly seemed pretty darn comfortable. Obviously I was not expecting frightened eyes and cigarette burns, but the confident air of the women surprised me.

I can only hope that I will be blessed with selective memory loss and never have to relive the tattooed Michelle “Bombshell” McGee clearly enjoying her finger in her own vagina on stage ever again.
(As a side note – she’s the stripper who ruined Sandra Bullock’s marriage.)

Talk about disillusionment!

When you discover what female porn stars earn, it suddenly becomes a lot easier to understand how they can participate in an industry completely distorting the female psyche.

The average amateur, dear reader, earns around $3000 per scene. The professionals reportedly earn millions.

Not that this in itself proves that porn starts are nothing but sluts – for all we know, the cliché may be true and old Candii does in fact have a sick mother and epileptic dog to look after.

But more than likely, she just likes to have sex. And likes to spend her – pardon the pun – hard-earned money on hair dye and lipgloss.

I know we’re not supposed to, but I’m judging….

Thoughts? Comments? Please send ‘em along :).

Twitter: @caro_erasmus

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13 Responses to “Porn stars – I just don’t get it”

  1. Wilskelm Barkhuizen October 5, 2011 at 5:21 pm #

    haha. how empirical of you to try and make sense of something so nonsensical really. me! i don’t get why -medicine- is so glamorised. to study medicine is not ‘the ultimate’ it’s disgusting. and every day you do disgusting things. but to study medicine is like woooah that’s the most elite. noways i pity them. (look how happy Marilyn is)

    • caroerasmus October 5, 2011 at 5:37 pm #

      haha i couldn’t agree with you more – with a mother who all but idolises the profession (medicine, not porn – just to be clear) and friends all living the rather disgusting reality, medicine is not glamourous. It’s gross.

  2. kieka October 5, 2011 at 5:25 pm #

    I agree completely. Porn never has and never will attract me in any way whatsoever. I do however think that the women who so “confidently” strut around on the screen and stage is everything but confident. I seriously suspect that they may have the worst self image and self regard in the world…

    • caroerasmus October 5, 2011 at 5:42 pm #

      Exactly what I used to think, but I’m beginning to have my doubts :S

      ps – assume you saw this link on my fb or twitter account? Don’t recognise your name? Otherwise – cool! – do I have my first non-known-to-me-personally reader? 😀

  3. Leero Majority October 6, 2011 at 11:09 am #

    Wow caro this is soo scandelously juicy for word keep it up

  4. I like boys who wear glasses October 6, 2011 at 5:52 pm #

    Spunky post (to stick with the theme 😉 )

    Keep it up. I will keep stopping by 🙂

    • caroerasmus October 7, 2011 at 11:29 am #

      Hey there! Same to you :). Loved your piece!

  5. TrueStory October 7, 2011 at 8:51 pm #

    Best part about porn career is that it’s your decision to do it or not. Just like with any other profession. Nobody forces those girls to do anything. They made a choice.

    Since you do not see yourself as porn-star (whether because of insufficient looks or lack of sexual self-confidence) then why judge ones that do?

    • caroerasmus October 17, 2011 at 10:36 pm #

      Haha I can assure you that neither of your reasons provided is true – I’m not a porn star because I respect myself. Simple as that. And come on – we all judge.

      • TrueStory October 17, 2011 at 11:27 pm #

        Insecure ones judge

      • caroerasmus October 17, 2011 at 11:36 pm #

        Everyone’s entitled to their opinion :). Thx for the read and taking time to write to me. Will check ur blog out in the morning :).

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